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The Round Table / Re: Tales From The Narc Side
« Last post by tellomon on November 12, 2024, 02:33:02 AM »Why does my narcissist have a problem with everything I do?
Ultimately, it’s because you have a f*cking narcissist, malclowntented little sh!t that it is.
After that, it’s probably because you think of yourself as an autonomous individual. You did mention yourself as “I” after all.
There is no “I” in “Team.”
“There is an M and an E though!”
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They complain about EVERYTHING - period. YOU are their handy go-to. Narcs are angry, spoiled, selfish, self-absorbed, immature toddlers in an adult body. NOTHING is ever good enough for them. They want every day to be Disneyland, but if you were there every day - that would get boring also.
Such is their mind set. They have zero ability to self-regulate, to find happiness &/or positive feelings w/in themselves, so they constantly look for it outside of themselves. BUT that is simply not sustainable.
Think of a very spoiled bratty child who whines for some cookies. You give them a couple, and then they want more….They would eat the entire pack until they get sick and even throw up. Then they will blame YOU for making them sick, but still want more cookies. THAT is a narc.
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Your narcissist has a problem with everything you do primarily due to the fact they have NPD. You’ve already worked that much out as you’ve called them ‘my narcissist’.
In the beginning, during the idealisation (lovebomb) phase they have targeted you and they need you. What do they need you for? To believe in the mask in order to give them supply. You're supply. Once they’ve set their sights on you - you are their target and the aim of the game is to bait and hook you in, then keep you hooked and trapped in their web of lies, betrayal and manipulation
That’s it.
That’s what it’s all about.
In the core of the narcissist, usually due to childhood trauma/neglect/abuse is a lot of shame and guilt and this has been buried and masked to protect and defend them.
i apologise if this is a trigger but the reality is they don’t love you. They don’t care about you. You are a tool to them to be used and abused, then shelved and later resurrected if you allow it.
To start with they see you as the bright shining light you are but then they see your flaws and weaknesses and they get bored. Everyone has flaws and weaknesses and the narcissist is no exception.
The narcissist has a problem with everything you do because they need to belittle you and to keep or put you down. Why? In order to keep themselves above you, to extinguish your bright shining light and to be all powerful and in control.
They actually have low self esteem and fragile egos (all hidden by the mask). They need others to prop them up and give them attention and validation. They can’t fill their own cup so they take from yours.
They are low level, low vibrational individuals who drag you down to their level. They will never rise up to yours. That’s not how this works.
But then it’s their game and it’s played by their rules and you don’t or didn’t know those rules. Rules normally make the game fair but there’s no fair in Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
They think they hold all the cards and for a while they do until they overplay their hand.
I once heard the narcissist described as the Wizard of Oz. The charlatan con person hiding behind the curtain, scaring people into submitting to and obeying them. Pull back that curtain to reveal the real them and there they are nothing but a coward and a bully attempting to make out they are better than you, they know better than you and you are nothing.
This is projection.
None of this is true. They are fake. The whole thing is felafelled up and fake. You can’t fix them or save them either. The situation will remain the same for as long as you allow it.
I acknowledge we all have flaws and issues but relatively normal people don’t treat others the way they do. We do, however, need to heal from their toxicity which very gradually and insidiously poisons our minds bodies and souls.
This is the drip drip drip effect as it very slowly poisons us. The danger is the longer we stay the more trauma bonded we become and we start to normalise, justify and excuse not only their behaviour but our reactions and our own behaviour towards it and them.
Ultimately, it’s because you have a f*cking narcissist, malclowntented little sh!t that it is.
After that, it’s probably because you think of yourself as an autonomous individual. You did mention yourself as “I” after all.
There is no “I” in “Team.”
“There is an M and an E though!”
__________________________________
They complain about EVERYTHING - period. YOU are their handy go-to. Narcs are angry, spoiled, selfish, self-absorbed, immature toddlers in an adult body. NOTHING is ever good enough for them. They want every day to be Disneyland, but if you were there every day - that would get boring also.
Such is their mind set. They have zero ability to self-regulate, to find happiness &/or positive feelings w/in themselves, so they constantly look for it outside of themselves. BUT that is simply not sustainable.
Think of a very spoiled bratty child who whines for some cookies. You give them a couple, and then they want more….They would eat the entire pack until they get sick and even throw up. Then they will blame YOU for making them sick, but still want more cookies. THAT is a narc.
_________________________________
Your narcissist has a problem with everything you do primarily due to the fact they have NPD. You’ve already worked that much out as you’ve called them ‘my narcissist’.
In the beginning, during the idealisation (lovebomb) phase they have targeted you and they need you. What do they need you for? To believe in the mask in order to give them supply. You're supply. Once they’ve set their sights on you - you are their target and the aim of the game is to bait and hook you in, then keep you hooked and trapped in their web of lies, betrayal and manipulation
That’s it.
That’s what it’s all about.
In the core of the narcissist, usually due to childhood trauma/neglect/abuse is a lot of shame and guilt and this has been buried and masked to protect and defend them.
i apologise if this is a trigger but the reality is they don’t love you. They don’t care about you. You are a tool to them to be used and abused, then shelved and later resurrected if you allow it.
To start with they see you as the bright shining light you are but then they see your flaws and weaknesses and they get bored. Everyone has flaws and weaknesses and the narcissist is no exception.
The narcissist has a problem with everything you do because they need to belittle you and to keep or put you down. Why? In order to keep themselves above you, to extinguish your bright shining light and to be all powerful and in control.
They actually have low self esteem and fragile egos (all hidden by the mask). They need others to prop them up and give them attention and validation. They can’t fill their own cup so they take from yours.
They are low level, low vibrational individuals who drag you down to their level. They will never rise up to yours. That’s not how this works.
But then it’s their game and it’s played by their rules and you don’t or didn’t know those rules. Rules normally make the game fair but there’s no fair in Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
They think they hold all the cards and for a while they do until they overplay their hand.
I once heard the narcissist described as the Wizard of Oz. The charlatan con person hiding behind the curtain, scaring people into submitting to and obeying them. Pull back that curtain to reveal the real them and there they are nothing but a coward and a bully attempting to make out they are better than you, they know better than you and you are nothing.
This is projection.
None of this is true. They are fake. The whole thing is felafelled up and fake. You can’t fix them or save them either. The situation will remain the same for as long as you allow it.
I acknowledge we all have flaws and issues but relatively normal people don’t treat others the way they do. We do, however, need to heal from their toxicity which very gradually and insidiously poisons our minds bodies and souls.
This is the drip drip drip effect as it very slowly poisons us. The danger is the longer we stay the more trauma bonded we become and we start to normalise, justify and excuse not only their behaviour but our reactions and our own behaviour towards it and them.
