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The Round Table / Re: Tales From The Narc Side
« Last post by tellomon on October 28, 2024, 12:54:27 PM »How does a narcissist lie to so many people?
Because they want to. It’s their MO.
They are very good at what they do. What many of us don’t understand at first is that they’ve been down this road many many times, especially if you’ve been dealing with an older narcissist.
Also, their mindset is much different than ours, it’s hard to get a handle on until you are forced to recognize it. It’s so foreign to your average bear lol. Although thinking about it I realize that it’s become so predominant that it is becoming very normal to encounter these people in everyday life. We need to be aware.
They dupe so many people because it’s pretty easy to do to an innocent.
The situation I am in now I look more like a narc than him to the untrained eye. It’s just that I know what I’m dealing with and hit back. I just don’t take the sh!t anymore. It becomes a mess lol. Kind of sad what they do isn’t it. And yes if I was 100% I’d be gone and stayed gone. It’s still a process.
My new motto is once you have seen you can’t unsee . It’s changed my life.
Also it’s been my observation that not all of them necessarily know what they are doing or at the least can’t help what they are doing. The malignant ado, the lesser are as much a victim and but you can’t cut them any slack regardless, they will take you down regardless they can’t help it. Bottom line it’s who is they are no matter where they are in the scale. Sympathy will be your undoing here.
Better to just go no contact it’s the only way to be free and live the life you were meant to.
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Superficial charm and an ability to create shallow rapport very quickly. They are very good at framing situations to make other people look like the bad guy, and at projecting their bad behavior onto other people. A narcissist injects himself into the life of everyone who is cared by or cares about the supply, building trust with them.
They attempt to manipulate the supply into sabotaging and abandoning their own friendships, and they lie about them and spread gossip and false drama across the social circle of the supply to make them look bad.
They’ll even act unbearable to the supplies friends or family if that is what it takes to drive them away. Once the supply is relatively isolated they love bomb the supply, to keep them hooked, and to hide the impending psychological and emotional abuse.
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Look. A narcassists life is built on lies, deception, dishonesty, manipulation, cheating, etc.
They tell so many lies that they loose track of whats true and a lie. They convince themselves that lies are true. However. They are highly focussed on spreading this blurb to anyone, they taylor the lies to suit the victim they are manipulating. The lie is a tool to get the reward or benefit they seek, and manipulation of yheir current supply. Equally, at the same time they are tailoring different lies to the person they are cheating with whilst with you.
Its best to assume everything being blurted out to you is a lie because it almost certainly is. Absolute craftsmen they are at it. And its extremely difficult to catch them out
A gay friend of mine was told by his narcissist partner that he couldn't have sex with him because he was sore down below from over aggressive self satisfaction. It was later proved that the soreness was because he had sex with his lined up replacement that very morning, aggressively. The two victims did meet and became partners, absolutely incensing the cheating narc to the point he went to the police and claimed he had been raped.
This, after months of investigation was proved to be a lie. Bitter, twisted and dangerous they can become. Whatever their orientation, the narc is almost certainly lying and cheating on a string of old and new supplies at the same time. Giving them a feeling of power and greatness that they can manipulate many people at the same time.
If you are in a relationship with a narc its almost certainly a 3,4,5 way relationship, with lies being blurted out taylor made to keep you sweet. Take for granted that everything is a lie, the relationship, promises, their love for you etc etc, its all a means to an end and the lie is their greatest tool in achieving that.
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I can assure you that every human being can be duped by these evil beings.
They are able to fake so naturally that to me, their acting is beyond Oscar winning! It is incredible and you will understand this only when you have been a victim to one of them.
