Does the smear campaign against you always occur with narcissists?
Oh yeah.
They can’t have people actually LISTENING to the truth because their warped sense of reality is the only truth that should be believed.
In the ending of a normal relationship, the new partner only hears that they didn’t get a long and that the couple split.
In the ending of a narcissistic relationship, all you hear is how much they were wronged and how deplorable the ex partner is.
All the friends in a regular relationship only really hear that they went their separate ways and decided to split.
The “friends” of a narcissist will hear hate and lies spread so thickly it’s like peanut butter on bread.
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The smear campaign is most certainly initiated as soon as the first devaluation or discard cycles begin. You can see the smear even begin before these phases if there’s a way for the NPD personality to triangulate between you and other supply / fuel sources— other believers in his cult Of The Perfect Victim.
“Look— she is so moody, crazy, mean, weird—-“ to his circle and even your family. There’s no way to avoid this phase. Then love bombing will reoccur. If you’ve decided to leave, and he cannot Hoover you back, then “The Smear” will intensify. FULL FORCE. This is when you find out who your true friends are. This is when you find out who his flying monkeys are.
This is when you make a decision to stay and be abused mentally— perhaps physically—- and for sure psychologically, or you get out and stay out. You have to stop worrying about what he says —what he does —what he believes— what he projects on the others about you and about himself. Be done. Get some good counseling, and please get out and stay out.
Good luck and peace be with you, always. He won’t change (or she) so you must be done. Go no contact.
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The smear campaign starts right at the beginning, you just didn’t know it went back that far.
How to deal with it? As hard and upsetting as it is, ignore it, don’t say anything.
The narcissist has set you up to look insane, a liar and an abuser so most people won’t believe what you have to say which feels even worse.
I defended myself once, to a neighbor who told me what my narc ex was saying about me, I was so mad and upset, as soon as I started defending myself, I just knew it was a mistake, the way the neighbor was looking at me… that bothered me for a long time so after that, I said nothing to anyone.
Very often, as time goes by, normal people start to notice things about the narc that are “just not quite right..” as more than a few people told me, “There’s something about that guy.” I still said nothing, just shook my head, yep!
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When you’re with a narcissistic in the beginning, once they get you hooked and get bored with you, is that when kind of smear campaign starts against you?
The smear campaign doesn't start until they need it.
What I mean by that is the moment they somehow start to look bad as far as your relationship goes is the moment they pull out the smear campaign. During the love bombing stage and the hoovering stage they're amazing.
My idea of an ideal partner. Loving caring giving forgiving, and no negativity is needed. But when you start to question certain behaviors of theirs, or they start trying to change you and you won't comply, that's when it gets interesting. When you start to question them about some of their behaviors, that's when the smear campaign begins slowly.
See you're still with them and as long as they still have somebody giving them everything they want they have to keep holding on to you. But they may drop a few negative comments about you here and there to their friends or even to your friends. Just enough to kinda maybe start changing the way some people think about you.
Once they're off with her new fling and some more of the truth come out about them that's when the real smear campaign starts. That's where they pull out all the stops. They will say absolutely anything to anyone... Especially to your friends. To anyone who will listen.
The moment they start to look bad in any way is the moment they decide they need to make you look worse.
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Short answer: My friend the narcissist smear campaign started the very first day that you met this demon. It is the cursed tongues of the snake pit that you were involved in with the narcissist and his narcissist family. You were being talked about the entire time behind your back and you were not even aware of it.
So, why should the smear campaign affect you now? Well, that’s because you had no idea that you were surrounded by demonic individuals who do not have your best interest in anyways. Now that you are aware of this snake pit the best advice, I could give you is to walk away silently and never allow these demons around you nor your friend circle that you trust ever again.
Do not allow them to have access to your life ever again. These demons are reckless, psychotic, demonic, unjustified, who have no self-worth, malicious, pure evil, and do not like you at all. They do not feel any remorse for the evil deeds in causing problems in your life through their malicious gossip hounds, and their precious flying monkeys that do their dirty work full of darkness.
So, “BLOCK! BLOCK! BLOCKITY BLOCK!!!! every one of these demon's out of your life because they are petty spineless abusers who will not benefit you in any way shape or form. Good luck as you heal and recover your reputation from the smear campaign. I will be praying for your speedy recovery. There are 8 million other people on this planet waiting to love and treat you like the loving human being that you are:)
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10/11/2016 6:06AM
Luka Luciano
Luka
fyi sherry has been talking sh!t about you saying your a freeloader living off her lazy bum drunk...she is spending night with kevin in vta says she made you sleep in her rv not in a relation ship any more planning to give you the boot. a conspiracy pretty low that is why i am writing hate cheaters liars backstabbers lame ass way to do things she made herself out as a victim not cool...
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