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What is narcissistic control?
Narcissistic control is when a narcissist says or even thinks something, and they expect everyone to respond exactly how they want.
They believe the world revolves around them and that their words, thoughts, or even their vibe are powerful enough to make people do what they want.
Narcissists expect everyone and everything around them to bend to their wishes. If someone doesn’t follow their demands or if something doesn’t go their way, they’ll try new tactics, apply different pressures, or rely on their belief that they can eventually make it happen.
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The narcissist feels a compelling need to control people in his (or her) environment; his spouse, work mates, friends and neighbors. It's because in his mind he doesn't feel in control. It is abuse, which is often long-term. There are many people stuck in long-term abusive relationships. They often feel powerless to do anything about it.
"Abuse is when someone else hurts us to serve their own needs and uses the situation to lock us in and maintain control."
The narcissistic personality manifests itself in the narcissist's behavior. He (or she) will seek to dominate every individual and every group with which he interacts. The narcissistic personality and its obsessive desire for control is not about control just for control's sake, but an essential defense against the risk of receiving a narcissistic injury; a blow to the ego or self-esteem.
Narcissism is almost entirely about gaining control over others, as is codependent behavior. Narcissistic behavior is most probably a reaction to an adolescence completely dominated by a narcissistic and/or codependent parent (or parents), controlled in all aspects of his young adult life, in a period when he needed to be allowed to develop control over his own life.
Healthy parenting involves reprimanding their children so that they know where the boundaries lie, whereas narcissistic parenting involves the parent(s) establishing complete emotional control over their offspring.
The narcissist lives in fear of losing control. He sees other people in his environment - at home, at work, friends, relatives and neighbors - as extensions to himself. He sees himself at the center of the world, the controller, an idol to be adored and admired; in his mind this makes it acceptable for him to abuse others - he continually tries to rearrange the 'significant others' in his life to look towards him, and admire him.
